Hey girl! Have you checked on your strong friend lately? Not just sent her your usual “how are you doing?” or the “how are the kids?” text. I mean, have you REALLY checked on her? If you’re close by, have you stopped by her house to look her in her eyes as you’ve asked how she’s doing? Or asked her to lunch so you can really take the convo past the usual casual questions?
So many times, especially in the black community, we wear the title “a strong black woman” as a badge of honor. From the outside it looks like she always has it together. Her house is decorated like a page out of a magazine. The kids are well taken care of and never in need of a single thing. And her marriage seems like #goals. But with all that said, where does she fit in. I mean, she spends all of her time making sure the house is clean, the kids are without complaint and her husband is always taken care of.
My Personal Struggles
Ask for help. You are not weak if you ask for help. We simply can’t go through life thinking we can do everything on our own. We have to move past the notion that you’re crazy if you seek help from a mental health professional. Mental health wellness is just as important as physical wellness. If you don’t feel comfortable seeking a professional just yet, then I encourage you to journal. You have to get your thoughts out sis. Because if you don’t, you’ll find yourself living inside a pressure cooker ready to explode at any moment.
So what are you doing to make sure your mental health is in tact? Or what about your girlfriends? Remember, don’t forget to check on your strong friend. And always, comment and share with anyone you think may benefit from this conversation.
Until next time,