MY OPEN LETTER TO MOMS

To the Seasoned Mom,

….Please stop judging the first time mom on the gadgets she buys to make life a little easier, or how she lacks experience in swaddling her baby or being able to rock her baby right to sleep.

… Please stop judging the first time mom on not having time to “fix herself up” because you were once there. You at one time did not have the time nor the energy to take time for yourself to do even the little things.

… To the seasoned mom, please stop judging the first time mom on not breastfeeding because maybe it didn’t happen so naturally as it did for you. Please stop judging her when she can’t meet your demands. She is tired, stressed and worn out just as you once were.

… To the seasoned mom, support the first time mom and understand the season she is in as you were once there.

To the married mom,

… Please stop judging the single mom who did not choose to raise her child alone.

… Please stop judging the single mom because she doesn’t have time to make the PTA meetings or be present at every single school function. You don’t know what it’s like to walk in her shoes but you do understand how tiring it is to be a mom.

… To the single mom, please stop judging the married mom because even though it may seem she has “help”, she knows what it feels like to be exhausted and sometimes the feeling of being alone. She knows what it’s like to not have time for herself. She knows what it’s like to feel like her best is not good enough.

… So to the single mom and the married mom, embrace each other because you both are in this season together.

To women whether married, single, mom of one or mom of many,

… Please stop judging each other. Please stop judging the mom struggling in the store to discipline her child. Either you were there before or you’ve never walked a day in that mom’s shoes.

…   Please stop judging the women who does not have children because you don’t know the struggles she faces in having children or she may not desire to have children. Embrace her wherever she is in her journey and do not question her inability to have children or her desire to not want children. This does not define her womanhood.

… To the young mom, please stop judging the seasoned mom and reminding her of what you would have done differently. You know there is no handbook to parenting so instead of bashing her, learn from her mistakes.

… To the mom who chose not to breastfeed, please don’t judge the mom who does. Breastfeeding is natural so please don’t be offended by her decision to breastfeed her child in public.

… To the mom who was able to “snap back” to her pre-baby body, please stop judging the mom struggling with her weight. Her weight or size does not determine her ability to be a great mom.

YOU are beautiful. YOU are enough. YOU are cherished.