I know you all are probably thinking this is a home blog. What does a Girlfriends Guide to Girlfriends have to do with my home? Well, you know the motto, “You are the company you keep.” I firmly believe that the people we surround ourselves with have a huge impact on who we are at home and how we treat others. If you are surrounded by negative girlfriends, then you’ll have a tendency to bring their drama into your own homes and sometimes into your marriage. On the flip side, it’s great to have sister friends to go through life with. Girlfriends can be just like family… Our kids adopt them as aunties and our husbands love them like sisters. Because of this, it’s important to me that I surround myself with great people that I’m comfortable letting into my home.
I have to admit…. I’ve been pretty blessed with some great friends. I could think of at least one in each category as I was writing this list. Some even fit the criteria of more than one! While no relationship is perfect – whether friendship, marriage, etc., I can say that the hiccups I’ve experienced with some were merely growing pains and completely necessary to our individual personal growth.
I’ve always taken my time getting to know people. Some would even laugh because it takes quite awhile before I drop the “Associate” label. It’s not that I think my friendship is worth its weight in gold, but I truly look for deep meaningful friendships. I look for people that build me up and want the same in return. I’m no expert in friendships, but because I have some pretty awesome friends (shout out to my girls!), I thought I would compile a list of girlfriends you should keep in your corner and those you could do without.
The Girlfriends Guide to Girlfriends
The Encourager The Encourager friend holds you accountable and supports every idea whether good or bad. She doesn’t stroke your ego but she believes in you and wants to see you succeed in life. She constantly pushes you to be better than you were the day before. The Encourager is also always loaded with great advice.
The Cheerleader The Cheerleader friend is exactly as the name entails. She supports everything you do and is always front row and center at every important event in your life. Your biggest moments are like her own and she never fails to celebrate that!
The Career Woman The Career friend is one you look up to. She’s successful and driven. She may not have a lot of time to hang out but her drive and success motivates you to stay at the top of your game.
The Work BFF You Work BFF is the peanut butter to your jelly. People at work always expect to see the two of your together. She is your only means to survival while on the job. You two share secrets, swap office gossip and always watch each other’s back.
The Seasonal Friend(s) While this may sound bad, the seasonal friend is someone that is in your life for a moment but makes a huge impact. You two may have connected over where you are in life such as your mommy season, marriage season, college friends, etc. You love each other but when your season is over, you sometimes drift apart. Your seasonal friends help you through whatever brought you together. Life may have a way of separating you, but when or if that season comes back around, it’s like you two never skipped a beat.
The Ride or Die Note to all of my friends who may be reading this…. I am not your Ride or Die. We will not sit in a jail cell together and I’m really not a fighter. Just know I will be praying for you on the outside though. Your Ride or Die friend is down for whatever. She’s your partner in crime. She doesn’t care about the consequences as long as you two are together. Remember friends…. I care about consequences.
Friends You Should Consider Cutting Ties With
The Competitor The Competitor friend is always in a race to be the first or be better. She doesn’t care about your success or wins but expects you to show up and support her every move. Be leery of this friend because she will be super critical of everything you do.
The Green Monster (AKA The Jealous Friend) Just like the Competitor friend, the Jealous one is never happy for you. Her friendship can be toxic to your marriage or other relationships around you due to her negativity. Please don’t take advice from this friend. As a matter of fact… just go ahead and eliminate her from your circle.
The Fragile Friend You constantly have to walk on eggshells around your fragile friend. You feel you can never be yourself or be honest because everything you say or do can or will be misconstrued. You’ll find yourself always on the defense or apologizing to your Fragile friend.
Girlfriends are the sisters God brought into our lives to help us through life. Be wise whom you let into your life and your hearts because again, we are the company we keep!