As a married girl, I often get asked if my husband is on board with my decorating plans. To be honest, it’s a yes and no type of answer. While my husband trusts my creative and design eye, he also wants to have an opinion on how I am decorating our space (he lives here too!) Like most things in marriages or partnerships, you need to compromise. Even if it’s compromising on decorating your home/space with your spouse! Here are tips on how to comprise on decorating with your spouse. And, I’ll share a few of my favorite designs from some of my favorite design couples! (Even a couple of brothers. Haha!)
Tip 1: Start with a budget:
Before you start any design project, there has to be a budget in place to make sure you stay on track. It’s even MORE important to have a budget in place when decorating with your spouse because we all know finances is a major reason for divorce. Decorating your home shouldn’t come at the cost of your marriage so it’s important the two of you sit down first and discuss your financial expectations. We all have a set number in mind, make sure your spouse is heard in this decision-making process.
How to Create a Design Budget:
- Decide on a specific dollar amount that you both agree to not go over
- On a spreadsheet or piece of paper, create a list of needs in one column, wants in another and cost in the third
- Before actually purchasing items from your list, do a quick comparison shop online to get an idea of pricing for your items. It’s great to have a high-end option and low end for each item.
- After you’ve filled out your cost column, decide what items are absolute must-haves and which items can be purchased at a later time when the budget allows
- Prioritize items based on foundational pieces like large furniture, then case goods, followed by decorative items.
Tip 2: Inventory What Stays and What Goes
The struggle of letting go is real, especially when you are decorating with a spouse! Even though we were able to let go of our college-aged pieces, we still have a few things laying around that have stayed past their welcome. These things are taking up prime real estate and it’s time you both decide to let go. Start by taking inventory together of all the things you both have brought into the marriage. From there, decide on what stays and what goes. I suggest anything with sentimental value but there has to be a limit. And for the sake of your marriage, avoid making the decision on your own to toss anything that belongs to your spouse without their notice. Imagine coming home to your partner tossing something really special to you! You wouldn’t be happy with their decision-making.
Tip 3: Compromise with Your Spouse
The hardest part of decorating with your spouse is the compromise. Whether it’s compromising on budget, whether you’ll hire a designer or not, or compromising on your style it’s important to be flexible to your spouse’s needs and wants. Let’s say you love the bold feminine pink floral wallpapers that are so popular right now and your hubby hates pink, compromise by finding a neutral toned down floral wallpaper that suites his taste a little better.
Tip 4: Find Your Styles and Meet in the Middle
Take the time to learn your design style. There are several design quizzes online to help you. Once you’ve figured it out, find the similarities and meet in the middle. If he’s modern and you’re all about transitional, try exploring contemporary styles via Pinterest.
Tip 5: Build a Neutral Foundation
When Jerome and I first started out, we moved into a condo with two huge burgundy focus walls and beige coordinating walls. He then went out and purchased a beige leather sofa (which was actually quite comfortable) that I hated the look of. I actually hated the look of the entire place but I learned to live with it.
It was far too red and warm for my taste. As our style has evolved and that beige sofa is long gone, I’ve learned that it’s best to start with a neutral foundation. What do I mean by that? Purchase neutral furniture pieces and then bring in color through accents and paint colors. This allows you to be flexible as both of your styles change. Or even suggest to your spouse the Color of the Year and how you can be the most stylish couples out there.
Tip 6: Make it Personal to Both Of You
Chances are, throughout your relationship you have collected several photos of each other and momentos. Take some time to go through your things together and decide what you want to put on display. This will make you both feel a part of the process and make your home feel like it feels special to the two of you.
Tip 7: Have Fun and DIY Together
Find projects that the two of you can easily work together on… Whether it’s painting, repurposing a furniture piece or building something. When you spend the time doing something together, it means that much more to you both. Our first home together held so many memories because we spent a lot of time together taking on projects. Those are the little things that make your home together feel more like home.
Compromising to design the perfect home for the both of you can be a challenge, but it can be an exciting adventure! If you are still struggling with discovering your style together, book a free discovery call with me! I can learn about what you both like, and then I will be able to create your dream home/space together!
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